There are certain things
that push guys away from you and sometimes these turn-offs go both ways.
Frankly some ladies find it hard to keep a man because of some things
they do. Read details below:This is an interesting piece written by a lady to help other ladies learn and avoid the looming dangers.
Drama: This is definitely one of the top things that push men away.
Women tend to be involved in more drama than men. It’s true that your
boyfriend will be there to listen to you when you’re having issues, but
being catty won’t highlight your best qualities. And being overly
dramatic about some petty issue, such as why he didn’t call you first,
will make him question the relationship. If you are a responsible lady
or want to be one, try not to make a huge deal of something that can be
easily fixed.
Possessiveness: Do you constantly check up on your boyfriend? If so, you
might want to back off a little bit. When guys receive too many “Where
are you?” texts, they tend to get annoyed. They don’t want to be in a
relationship with their mom. You might think this is just you caring
about him, but to him, it will feel like you don’t trust him, or worse,
like you are trying to control him.
Playing dumb: Unfortunately, we ladies have all probably done this at
some time or other. Truth is that playing dumb will lead you down the
wrong path. He might eventually feel like you’re taking advantage of him
or that you just aren’t capable of taking care of yourself, let alone
you and the kid or kids when they start coming. Good guys believe a
smart girl is much more worth keeping at home.
Clingy: A guy has got to have his own space! How much space a guy needs
will vary. Some guys think that going out more then twice a month
together is clingy, while others think that you never leaving his side
is clingy. As a lady, make sure to observe your own man to figure out
where he lies on the spectrum! When you give him what he wants, he will
really appreciate your understanding and thoughtfulness – and he will
try to make the time you do spend together that much more worthwhile.
Living in the past: It’s okay to share your past once you get
comfortable with your new guy. Just don’t dwell on it. Not yours, not
his, not “ours.” Don’t compare him to a fling that you had before, a
sugar daddy or ex-boyfriend. And don’t compare yourself to anyone in his
past – and definitely don’t dwell on a past disagreement that you two
had. If you want him in your future, plan today with him.
Dishonesty: We hate being lied to. So why do we do it to a man we love?
It doesn’t protect a relationship; in fact, it might destroy it.
Communication is key in a relationship, so if you say things that you
don’t mean, what’s the point? Try to express yourself and allow your man
point out things that he doesn’t understand. Always make an attempt to
talk things out. Believe me, it works wonders!
Remember that time you told him you loved that his shirt, even though
really, you can’t stand it? Well, what are you going to do if he starts
wearing it all the time to please you? That is it, you have all the work
to do if you want to enjoy your man and have him spend his money you
wholeheartedly.
Power struggle: I always cringe when I hear people joking about who
wears the pants in a relationship. There’s really no need to do that.
Learn to be humble and work well with your man. Your friends are loyal
to their own men at home, no matter what they tell you. So don’t be
obsessive over who has more power. Love is what you should ask for from
your man, not his authority. You can!
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